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Wendi Schuller

Helping Kids Care for Themselves: Parental Strategies That Work

Growing up in our modern world is as challenging as ever. Part of our job as co-parents is to give children the skills for handling whatever comes their way. The following guide from Wendi’s Tips explores a few practical tactics for raising self-sufficient individuals that are unafraid of tackling life’s challenges.

Modeling Behavior

We come into our lives without knowing anything, so growth begins through imitation. Infants and toddlers, especially, learn by copying adults. Caregivers that overly rely on digital entertainment for occupying tykes risk granting Hollywood too much influence. Circumvent this by switching off devices and engaging in family time. One substitute is instituting a game night. The presence of healthy competition allows you to demonstrate how to lose gracefully and that failure isn’t a tragedy. As a bonus, many games teach fundamentals, such as numbers and colors.

Should your child flip over the board in a fit of rage, take the opportunity to discuss different coping practices. For instance, punching a pillow is a harmless approach to burning away anger. Writing down frustrations and tearing the paper into tiny pieces can also provide emotional release. Meditation requires more time and knowledge but has longer-lasting effects. When outside forces cause grownup stress, let young ones observe you washing away frustration through Eastern practices.

Another refocusing technique is exercise. Make physical activity a joyful experience by turning it into a performance or family dance party. If your child is more an artist than an athlete, draw, paint, or otherwise get messy while putting feelings on canvas. Storytelling allows youth to divulge serious issues they might not be comfortable addressing directly. Set the stage for expressing inner observations by weaving a tale of your own.

Creating Peace

The first step to a peaceful, healthy home environment is to make sure that the products you purchase, whether kitchen gadgets or toys, are conducive to health and safety. To learn about potential purchases, it’s best to seek out unbiased reviews online. A good review can fill you in on need-to-know information about a product’s quality, which can keep you from making a poor purchase decision.

It’s easiest for everyone to be calm in an environment that facilitates that end. Start by decluttering, which has the benefit of making the air healthier. Tossing junk also creates additional room for activities and supports clear thinking.

Refresh your newly decluttered space with houseplants. Choose flora that’s ideal for boosting moods and reducing stress. Involve juveniles by allowing them to pick a few they find appealing. That and assigning them watering duties should help them bond with nature. Position plants in spots with ample light so they’ll grow. Keep blinds and shades open, as exposure to the sun also positively affects humans and pets. Using an oil diffuser makes homes smell fresh and happy. Be careful that the one you choose cannot harm your pets.

Your peaceful home should also extend to your yard, which should be an enticing place for you and your children to play. To help keep your yard looking its best, search online for an aeration service near you. You can quickly find a list of companies that can perform yard maintenance along with customer reviews and ratings. This can help you make an informed decision about who to hire.

Prioritizing Youth

Besides creating a calm house and showing children how to deal with setbacks, positive growth is dependent on spending quality time around one another. Fulfilling this responsibility as a single parent can be tricky, especially during busy times of the year. The best way of assuring your kids get the attention they need is by creating a plan, which should make reaching your goal less stressful.

Daily routines you might want to incorporate into your household lifestyle include bedtime rituals, such as teeth brushing and book reading. Before suppertime, set the expectation that kids complete simple chores around cooking duties. As a reward for completing these tasks, plan a day trip to an offbeat museum or age-appropriate escape room. These excursions will give your entire tribe something worth anticipating.

Divorce and life as a co-parent can be both challenging and scary, so follow Wendi’s Tips for help navigating this phase of you and your children’s lives.

Author Janice Russell believes the only way to survive parenthood is to find the humor in it. She created Parenting Disasters so that parents would have a go-to resource whenever they needed a laugh, but also to show parents they aren’t alone. She wants every frazzled parent out there to remember that for every kid stuck in a toilet, there’s another one out there somewhere who’s just graced their parents’ walls with some Sharpie artwork!

When A Relationship Ends Abruptly – What To Do

One can go into full-blown shock when the other person abruptly ends your relationship. Even if there were a few hints something was amiss, it is still a shock. Hard to believe this is happening. As far as the other person is concerned, there is not much you can do. If they made up their mind to break it off, it is done.

Harder when the decision was made and you were not notified. You see then at work, a social event, their musical gig, whatever and find out at the same time as everyone else. They may take great pains to ignore you. Maybe are dramatic and turn their back if you get nearby. Not cool when done publicly at a gathering.

Of course, you would like an explanation and not be playing guessing games in your head. This may never happen. It is difficult when there are loose threads.  In both cases – whether you got an explanation or were ghosted – closure is needed. Easier to move on when there is a clear-cut ending in your mind.

Accept what happened is final.  Wishing for a reunion keeps you attached to them and is it not going to happen. You are wasting time and energy on this fantasy. This mental connection prevents one from moving on.

The big thing about an abrupt ending is not having closure. Since there is no communication, you cannot be sure if it was something you did or if got dropped for a new love interest. One is left hanging.  If someone is upset that should be discussed. If a boundary was crossed into a no-go area, then at least you would understand why there is an ending.   It is childish for them to do silence.

Emotionally getting through this situation

Spend a day really feeling your grief. Cry, wail, scream, curse or whatever else you feel needs expressing. You are experiencing a loss, a death of a relationship. Concentrate on dealing with it being over. Later as time moves on, you can appreciate the fun times.  You got some life lessons from this episode.

Rally your support system around you. Call or go out with friends. Talk it out with them. Have some fun. Try a new café.

Get out in nature. Take walks in leafy areas. Exercise releases pent up energy and anxiety. One feels better after a run when the endorphins are increased. Getting a physical work out calms nerves and helps one be able to deal with this situation.

What to do or not do

Do not contact them no matter how tempting it is to text or call. This is giving them power to reject you again.

If they call, do not answer it. Go ahead and listen to their message later, if you want. If a text is sent, do not respond. If you cannot resist, then say “I accept that you ended our relationship. I am moving on now.”

They may beg for a second chance and promise to change. That would be short-lived and the disrespect would creep back in again. If they were really into you, this would not have happened in the first place.

There is a void – empty space inside of you from their departure. Fill it up. When one removes a dead tree, they do not leave a big hole. It is filled in with a plant or something else. Plant something else inside of you. Take up a new activity. Join a MeetUp.com group and expand your social network.

Getting into a new environment can help. You are not running into them or dealing with as many triggers.  Travel to an enticing destination on your bucket list. The point is not to allow them to dwell in your head.

Ending a relationship abruptly is disrespectful and not valuing you. Do you really want a relationship where you are not cherished and it is all about them? No!! You deserve much more. Move on to someone who will appreciate you.

 

 

Reviving A Long-Term Relationship

Tips on how to add sparkle to a long-term relationship and avoid a divorce. Before calling it quits, explore different ways to bring the relationship back to life. Does your marriage feel like a prison sentence? Boredom and being in a rut can make a marriage seem dull and lifeless. Hints on how to revive your marriage.

Several couples took up golf together with the added bonus of improving their game in foreign locales. See if you can build upon a common interest – plus it gives you both something to talk about. Some couples have bought a holiday home and renovating it reignited the spark in their marriages.

Go out to a neutral place, such as a café and have a respectful conversation about your feelings. Use “I” statements, “I feel…” without blame or accusations. Intently listen to his responses and what he feels could be changed in your marriage.

S00metimes people rely too much on their spouse for companionship and to meet their social needs. The happiest couples I know each have some individual pursuits and interests outside of their relationships. Consider widening your social network through such groups as MeetUp.com to enrich your life and to see if this improves your marriage.

Take a vacation together to provide time to talk in a pleasant atmosphere. It may be easier to have structured group time, such as being on a tour or cruise. Then there is a balance between interacting with others and having alone time. Getting away from your routines and environment, plus having a lot to talk about can realign a relationship.

If you have been drifting apart and pass each other as two ships in the night – plan for couple time. Each week, alternate who selects the agenda for a night out. What fun trying new restaurants, attending concerts and seeing films. Some celebrities have claimed they split up due to lack of time together.

Put yourselves in each other’s shoes to see a new perspective to the other’s point of view. Is there validity to their complaints? Some couples have come up with this compromise – each stopping an annoying habit. One husband habitually threw his towel and clothes on the floor. The wife’s cosmetics and lotions covered the bathroom counter. Each spouse ceased the aggravating behavior and now have been married for over two decades.

Sometimes a partner has to leave for a period of time to really think things through. They may choose a work sabbatical or live in a distant land to determine if they should stay or divorce. Some have to get out of their place to gain clarity for their situation.

You may want to get legal advice and have a trial separation handled by an attorney. This formal separation may become the first step to a divorce.

If there is abuse – get out of the situation quickly. A domestic violence shelter can advise one how to extricate herself in the best way from an abusive spouse.

Consider marital counselling with your spouse. It can show you how to communicate more effectively which is important both in marriage or divorce. The Retrouvaille Program has weekend retreats for couples to get their marriages back on track. If divorce is imminent, then counselling helps a couple to have an easier time parting ways.

Divorce does not have to be the end of a relationship, but rather a change in it.

 

Guide for Moving to a New State After a Divorce

After a divorce, you may be looking to turn a new leaf and start afresh in a completely different location. But before you pin a map to the wall and throw a dart at it to find your new spot, there are a few things – and people – you need to take into consideration. So let’s go over four instances where planning ahead will help you make the right decision:

If You’re Looking for a New Place to Live

Costs of living vary greatly from state to state and even from city to city, so take that into consideration before you settle on a place to live and consider what you’ll be able to afford, taking into account spousal support, child custody, and other expenses. And before you even look at your options, if you and your ex-spouse have children together, discuss how you’ll share custody once you two live further apart, and make sure you have your co-parent’s consent in writing before you take off to a different state. Look at the available amenities in the neighborhoods you are considering moving into, and make sure they are safe and suitable for your children.

If You’re Ready to Relocate

Before you book your movers to take you to your new home, make sure your divorce is completely finalized and take inventory of what you have, what you plan on taking with you, and what you want to get rid of. When you have shared assets with your ex-spouse, it’s best to discuss together how you’re planning on dividing those and come to an amicable agreement. Also, remember that if you’re the one moving away, it will cost you less money to transport fewer items across states than a complete household move would. Once you’ve decided on what you’re keeping, look for movers in your area and get at least three quotes in writing before choosing a company. And don’t forget to read reviews online to avoid scam artists and unreliable people.

If You’re Starting a Business

If you’re planning on launching a business after you relocate, make sure you check the legal requirements for business ownership in your new state in order to stay compliant and avoid penalties. Create a plan describing your company, detail how you’re planning on selling your products or services, explain how your business will be structured, include what funding you’ll need to get your startup off the ground, and come up with some financial projections to attract possible investors. And if you’re looking to find partners for your new venture, think about joining the local chamber of commerce, or renting a coworking space where you’ll get to mingle with other solopreneurs and make new friends in your new city.

If You Need to Find a New Doctor

Relocating to a different state means you’ll need to find new doctors, such as a dentist and a general practitioner, to help you manage your health and to treat you in case of illness or injury. If you haven’t found your bearings in your new place yet, you can find an online doctor and get an appointment for a remote consultation. This is an easy, safe, convenient, and private way to seek treatment if you’re not feeling well, or if you’re just in need of a checkup. You’ll be able to book a same-day appointment from anywhere, and if you need medication, your prescription will be sent to the pharmacy of your choice for added convenience.

Making a complete life change after a divorce by relocating to a different state may help you in your emotional recovery. But before you embark on your next adventure, make sure you do your research. And don’t leave any loose ends that could cause you and your ex-spouse potential issues later.

Looking for advice on dating, relationships, or divorce? At globalguidetodivorce.com, you’ll find tips on co-parenting, legal issues, and much, much more.

Author is Suzie Wilson ⎸info@happierhome.net  ⎸Happier Home

Tips How To Make Decisions During Divorce

Divorce knocks the wind right out of you. Even the simplest decision can be overwhelming. Some individuals do not want to think about choices which need to be made during proceedings. Trying to avoid decisions does not work any better than reacting hastily just to be done with them.  An obstacle to decision making during divorce is having tunnel vision. This is having focus on the here and now and not seeing the broader picture. It is understandable to be concentrating on what is immediately happening. Not giving a thought to what is down the road can affect one’s financial future.

Unfortunately, I fell into this trap. Retirement was not on my radar when I divorced in my forties. I was concerned about getting liquid assets that would pay down my mortgage on a house I recently purchased. There was plenty of time to build up a portfolio for my elderly years, or so I thought.  Unforeseen expenditures included the times post-divorce, that my ex-spouse took me to court for shared care issues. He lost each time, but since his solicitor was his drinking buddy, it only cost him a few beers.  My legal fees were high. Helping sons with university expenses was another chunk spent. Plan ahead.

There are ways to help decision making during divorce go a bit smoother.

  • Get in a calm state of mind. Stress floods our body with hormones such as cortisol. This causes the brain to perceive a threat which then activates the Flight or Fight response. It is hard to make a rational decision when the body is prepared for battle. What helps many is doing meditation which has a calming effect on the brain. Other avenues are deep breathing, prayer, mindfulness and practicing gratitude. Engaging in physical exercise decreases anxiety. Yoga or martial arts such as Tai Chi, help bring relaxation to the body and mind.
  • Go to experts. They are a fresh set of eyes to analyse one’s assets and determine what is most advantageous to receive. When dividing personal property, an expert’s opinion can be invaluable. I had an art appraiser come to my house to informally look at a few paintings. He suggested which ones to request. It speeded up the negotiations. A tax advisor can see which investments may have tax issues. Getting advice from these individuals can make decisions easier.
  • Ascertain what are your short-term and long-term goals. A person in their thirties will have different priorities than those in a Grey Divorce. If you want to start your own business post-divorce, then perhaps getting investments that can be cashed easily makes more sense than a large retirement package. Get realistic numbers for what you require to start a new enterprise after divorce. Knowing what you need right away helps with decisions during negotiations.
  • Feel free to ask for a short delay in order to think things through for your situation. Acting in a panic can backfire later. If you need a break from decision making, then take it. My break in the middle of my divorce was a river cruise down the Rhine. I came back to the proceedings refreshed and ready to continue with negotiations.
  • Break down decisions into smaller segments if possible. Looking at the multitude of decisions as a whole can be traumatic. Start with smaller ones first and work up to the larger ones. When looking at a huge decision, such as whether to stay in the marital home, I looked at the details. I wanted to stay in the house with the boys. The details showed it would be a financial disaster. I bought a much smaller house which turned out to be wise. The added bonus is that I do not have bad memories attached to it, like I would in the marital one.
  • Gather your support system around you. When wavering between which decision to make, trusted friends can give you advice. They may have trod the same path as you are on now. Friends’ and acquaintances’ wisdom helped me to make appropriate choices. These people were my cheering section who helped get me through divorce.

Your solicitor is on your side. When you feel overwhelmed and cannot think, let them know. Their experience will guide you through this turbulent time.

Originally published on Paradigm Law, UK web site

Spring and Summer Safety: Tips to Protect Your Kids

As parents, we instinctively want to shield our kids from danger. Sometimes, however, the outdoors can present hazards we might not even dream of, especially during the warmer months of the year. Courtesy of Jack Jack the Cat, we share some tips for ensuring your children are protected.    

Outdoor Inspection   

Even if you took precautions last fall, it may be time to tidy up once spring arrives, as winter can be hard on a home’s exterior. Take a walk around your property, looking carefully for potential concerns. Trim trees and shrubs to prevent growth from encroaching on your home, and cut them back at least two feet to keep pests from getting too cozy or to eliminate any hazards to your children.   

You should also inspect the fence that surrounds your property, if you have one. Make sure there are no areas that need to be replaced or repaired. Strong fences are especially important if you live in a high traffic area or a neighborhood with a low walk score. In other words, if foot traffic is low because the area doesn’t have many shops within walking distance, then you are likely to experience more auto traffic. Then, a good fence is important for your kids’ and your home’s safety.   

Also, sometimes when we live with things, we don’t think of them in terms of posing dangers. Eliminate sources of standing water such as toys left in the yard or flipped open garbage bin lids, as they also provide opportunities for mosquitoes and other pests to thrive.    

Pool Safety  

Pools are an obvious source of potential danger. If you have a pool, the Red Cross recommends having your children take swimming lessons. It’s vital to keep ladders and steps secure to prevent children from falling into the water, and remove ladders when the pool is not in use. Install protective barriers and use a safety cover. Also keep the water clean and ensure the chemicals are at the right levels.   

Secure Equipment   

Outdoor equipment can be inviting to curious children. Ensure items such as grills, lawn care equipment and electrical appliances are secured properly. Pick up and properly stow sharp objects and tools. Also lock storage sheds, garages and barns, and install childproof locks on gates.    

Sun Exposure   

Just like adults, kids need some sunshine to help their bodies produce vitamin D. However, too much can damage your youngster’s skin. Raising Children explains it’s particularly important to keep toddlers and babies safe from damaging ultraviolet rays. Dress your child appropriately, using a hat to protect your child’s head from the sun’s rays. Infants do best in soft hats that allow babies to relax comfortably. Choose one with a chinstrap or tie, and if your little one objects, keep trying until she or he accepts it as part of the normal routine.    

Also, prolonged exposure to sunshine puts your child at risk for future cataracts. Sunglasses can help guard against damage to your child’s eyes; opt for close-fitting, wraparound glasses for the best protection.   

Riding Toys   

A big part of warm weather fun is getting on a tricycle, skateboard or bike. If your youngster has riding toys that come out as soon as temperatures rise, ensure the proper safety equipment is at hand. Some experts recommend helmets when riding on toys, but note helmets should be removed for playground or swing set play as they pose choking hazards.   

When using strollers, use the safety straps provided by the stroller manufacturer, and if your baby is too little to sit up on her own, steer clear of hauling her in wagons with low sides. If your kids are old enough for bicycling on streets, Healthline notes you should teach them the rules of the road, such as riding the same direction as traffic, obeying traffic signals, using hand signals, watching for other vehicles and not riding on sidewalks.   

Preparations Mean Safety   

Keeping your child safe is one of your first priorities. Warm months present special hazards, but with proper preparations you can prevent tragedy. Working parents often need support during the summer, like trading play dates with neighbors or having a teenager watch the kids while you work. It’s important that you share these tips with anyone who might be watching your child so that everyone involved provides your child with a safe environment through carefully thought-out precautions.   

If you’re looking for some summer reading options, check out Jack Jack the Cat. Whether Jack Jack is at home or exploring the jungle, he is sure to find himself in the middle of an adventure. Check our website for more information about Jack Jack and his weekly adventures for plenty of summertime fun. 

Situationship – Being In The Middle Ground When Dating

Do you feel you are neither in the friend zone or in the romantic one? Confused about what is happening in your relationship – or even if you are in one?  You are caught in the middle ground which is called situationship.

What are the signs of situationship?

 Lack of commitment 

It is being in a relationship without commitment. People go out together – even exclusively – and there does not seem to be a future.  Spontaneity is fun. Great to do things on the spur of the moment. It keeps life exciting, unless this is how it is always. These people usually do not make plans ahead of time. Cannot commit to a date next week.  When plans are made for a later time, they often bow out. The future is not mentioned. It is one thing to live in the moment, another to be stuck there., They use the word “sometime.”   “Would you like to go dancing/hiking (whatever) sometime?”  You answer with an enthusiastic “Yes” and nothing is planned.  The future is not discussed.

In regular dating relationships, there is forward movement. Although one person may go at a slower pace, the relationship still progresses. In situationship – it is on standstill.

Lack of commitment shows up in other areas.  It may seem like you both are getting closer: talking in depth about your pasts, career goals and so forth. When you start intimating more contact, they step backwards. It is a dance which they want to lead.  People in situationship do not want to be pinned down. They crave their freedom, yet still have someone they can call when feel like going out. It is a way to avoid closeness which can lead (in their minds) to dating drama.

Inconsistency

What is frustrating is the inconsistency – you may go out several times in one week, and nearly a month, goes by before the next date.  There is no agenda or routine schedule. There is little or no contact between dates. These individuals rarely initiate a text. They can be good at responding., which is easier than generating one. They may answer in minutes and later take days to respond.

You are doing most of the work in this relationship. Phone calls may only be when they have not heard from you in a while and are asking you out at the last minute.  Tone of texts can be flirty or almost rude. Hard to figure out where you stand in this relationship.

Incongruity between body language and words

In situationship where you are is undefined. The verbal may be incongruent with the non-verbal (actions).  Warm kisses on the lips, or even sex, do not go with their behaviour.  They do not go out regularly with you and are silent between dates.  They snuggle with you in booths, give plenty of hugs and kisses and throw in some complements.  This can be refereed to as crumbs. Enough to keep you interested, but not a main course.  They are treating you romantically while saying you are “Just Friends.”

It is confusing when their friends seem to think you are a couple or ask you how long the two of you have been dating.  Hard to answer when not really knowing if this is considered dating. Perhaps you like their friends and are part of the other’s inner circle.

What to do

Have a discussion of your needs and expectations. Express what you are feeling, “I’m into you – very attracted.”  Let them respond, pause as long as it takes to get an answer. In one case, the man’s reply was “I am not ready to take this further.” Yes, vague, but something. She is not sure if that means for this entire decade or for the next few months.  Communication is important in situationship.

When being told you are “just friends” for many months, consider dating again when an opportunity arises. This can help you become less fixated on the situationship which is going nowhere.

Questions to ask yourself

Are you getting anything out of it?

Are you better with or without them?

The answers help determine if you want to enjoy the relationship for what it is or if it is time to move on.  People’s self-worth can be negatively affected, particularly if they feel there is a flaw within themselves. People coming out of a toxic marriage may feel they are not worthy of anything more and accept what is happening. Be aware of your mental health, and if feeling depressed or anxious, think about making an exit. Keep  in mind, you are in a situationship because of the other person, not you. They are fearful, have a traumatic history, attachment disorder, or whatever it is.

One example where it does work out is this. A woman in a situationship with a musician, realized she enjoys going to his gigs and dancing. She has fun going out for pizza periodically in-between times.  She decided to stay with the man, but start dating again. She has had several dates so far, and life is fun and fulfilling for her.  There is no right or wrong answer, it is what ever is best for you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tips For Making A Long-Distance Dating Relationship Work

Long-distance dating relationships can be challenging. Easier to keep the passion high when you can call up your partner and say “Hey, come right over.”  Long-distance requires planning, not spontaneity.  Many people who have been through these types of relationships, say it was worth the separation. Being sure of each other’s commitment got them through this period.

Long-distance take extra effort to keep them alive. One person might be doing more in the reaching out and this can become frustrating. Logistics have to be factored in, who is travelling and who is not. It is one thing when in the same locale, to decide who pays. Quite another when getting together requires serious money.  An example is Harry, who moved and had a six-year long-distance relationship. He resented paying 100% of transportation costs for them both. No give and take financially. Eventually Harry thought about how in other areas of their relationship he was his doing most of the work. Although relationships are rarely 50-50, there has to be somewhat of a balance.

People in long-distance relationships mention how getting together in short bursts is more like being in Disneyland. Fantasy vs reality. It is like being on a holiday, doing fun activities. While this may be fine for some, others want a relationship on a deeper level.

People brought up that they missed or ignored red flags in a long-distance relationship. They concentrated on having fun instead. They dealt with the cracks when these could no longer be ignored.  A local relationship could have been patched up or ended sooner. Nip problems in the bud before they get huge. Your partner is not a mind reader, so bring them up.

The Pros

Distance allows commitment to be gradual. One is more conscious of it and makes a choice instead of falling into it. You decide to be a couple and less likely to take the other person for granted. When dating in town, one can fall into a pattern. On Friday night we do this, on Sunday we go out for brunch. When living in different locales, one is not in a predictable schedule or rut.

Being apart forces one to build a stable foundation. The relationship may be moving at a slower pace. One man said there are less triggers to get to him in his long-distance relationship as are in past local ones.  He also said that they met on different levels before initiating physical intimacy.  One was getting to know each other spiritually. They did not jump into bed right away, as what happens when dating locally. He feels they really got to know each other first before having sex.

Tips for making it work

Communication is imperative. Be conscious of word choice. Are they expressing your intention and exact emotion?  Easier to give a more ambiguous communication when not done in person. Emails and texting can seem blunt without vocal quality.

Be aware of your own emotions

Other emotions can come through subconsciously with communication such as hostility or resentment.  If you are angry, disappointed, then express them using “I” statements. “I feel hurt when you take several days to answer a text.”  Be direct and not sarcastic.

Keep in touch, even if a quick text “Thinking of you. Hope your day is great.”

If becoming serious, discuss where to live together. A US man with a girlfriend in Norway, advises finding neutral territory to settle. They are looking for a city which fits both of their needs. Others may want to move to a place where one of them lives, especially if that person has children. Some couples live in different loculations indefinitely and spend time blocks together. One couple does six weeks together and six weeks apart. This is working fine. Discuss if there is a time table for when living together. Or, if commuting is desirable for you both.

Flexibility is a plus in a long-distance relationship

Here is an example with a happy ending. Matthew and Elizabeth became a couple when they attended university. Matthew went on to law school and Elizabeth studied to be an ophthalmologist in different cities. She had internships in various places during the summer months when Matthew did not have law school. He stayed with her during that time for three years. Elizabeth managed to get one in Matthew’s hometown. They got together at other times during the year.  The long-distance part of their relationship for lasted three years. They are blissfully married with two children. When a couple is committed to make it work, it can.

 

Everything You Need to Know About Family Law in Chester County

Family law is a complex and ever-changing area of the law. If you are facing a family law issue, it is important to have an experienced attorney on your side. The attorneys at our firm have extensive experience handling all types of family law matters, including divorce, child custody, support, and more. We understand the unique challenges that come with these cases, and we are here to help you through every step of the process.

Whether you are just starting the divorce process or you have already been through a lot, we can help. We understand how difficult this time may be for you, and we will do everything we can to make it as smooth and stress-free as possible. We will work diligently on your behalf to protect your rights and achieve the best possible outcome in your case.

If you are dealing with child custody or support issues, we can help you navigate the complex legal system and ensure that your rights are protected. We understand how important these issues are to you and your family, and we will work hard to help you reach a resolution that is in the best interests of your children.

What is the Family Law in Chester County, PA?

The Family Law in Chester County, PA is the set of rules, guidelines, and court procedures that govern how cases involving families are handled in the county. This area of law includes divorce, child custody, alimony, and other related matters. Because family law can be complex and ever-changing, it is important to have an experienced attorney on your side if you are facing a family law issue.

What Does a Family Lawyer Do?

A family lawyer is an attorney who specializes in handling cases involving families. Family lawyers have extensive experience dealing with all types of family law matters, including divorce, child custody, support, and more. They understand the unique challenges that come with these cases and can help you navigate the legal system to reach a resolution that is in your best interests.

How do I file for Child custody modification in Chester County, Pennsylvania?

If you are seeking a modification to a child custody order in Chester County, Pennsylvania, you will need to file a petition with the court. The court will then set a hearing where both sides can present their arguments. After considering all of the evidence, the court will make a determination on whether or not to modify the child custody order.

What is an uncontested divorce in Chester County, Pennsylvania?

An uncontested divorce is one in which both parties agree on all terms of the divorce, including property division, child custody, and alimony. If you are able to reach an agreement with your spouse on these matters, you can file for an uncontested divorce. This type of divorce is typically faster and less expensive than a contested divorce.

No matter what type of family law issue you are facing, we are here to help. Contact our Chester County family law lawyers today to schedule a consultation with one of our experienced attorneys. We will review your case and help you determine the best course of action. Call us today to get started.

 

Your Guide to Moving and Starting a Business at the Same Time

Are you starting a new business and going through a divorce? If you need to move to a new home, follow the outline below to help you simplify your move and business startup.

Find Out How Much You Can Afford

One of the first steps you should take when starting a home-based business is figuring out how much you can afford to invest in the business. This will vary depending on your individual situation, but it is important to find out how much you can afford to invest before you start looking for potential investments.

Once you know how much money you can put toward your business, you will be able to look at larger investments such as buying a home and a business location.

Get Pre-Approved for a Loan

Getting pre-approved is the first step before getting approved for a loan. This is a normal part of the overall process and serves to let lenders know whether you’re a good fit for a loan.

You should make sure that your credit is in good standing and nothing is in collections. This will go a long way in getting your pre-approved and ultimately approved.

Find a Real Estate Agent

If you are purchasing your first home, it is important to find a real estate agent that specializes in helping first-time homebuyers.

Mashvisor points out that a real estate agent can help you find the perfect home for your budget. They may also be able to help you find local contractors and home improvement stores for your project ideas. If you’re considering saving money upfront by purchasing a home being sold “as is,” do so with an air of caution. If the property has major issues (e.g., problems with the foundation, HVAC, plumbing), it’s usually incumbent on you to pay for all the repairs, which can quickly add up. Again, a trusted real estate agent can help you navigate your options.

Search for a Home Online

Your local real estate agent can also help you find listings online. With the advent of online resources, finding a listing for a home is easier than ever before. While you can always visit your local real estate agent and ask them to help you find listings, an online resource makes this process even easier.

You can use a number of websites to find listings in your area. You can also search for listings based on your desired features, price range, and other preferences.

Market Your Company

Once you have settled in your new home, it is time to start thinking about a marketing plan. This is crucial as it will help you get your brand noticed by the rest of the world.

A catchy and appealing logo is one of the best ways you can make your company known to the public. Your logo is what makes you stand out among the rest. Although you may be tempted to hire a professional to design your logo, an online logo maker is a better option. This option is usually cheaper and more flexible than hiring a professional to create your brand logo. You can choose from many different logos online. You can also adjust every aspect of the logo, including colors and text, once you have found the logo you want.

Invest in Payroll Services

Payroll services can also help to ensure that your employees are paid accurately and on time. This can help to improve morale and reduce turnover, both of which can save your business money in the long run. You’ll get payroll services processed quickly, and many payroll service providers offer additional features such as direct deposit and tax filing assistance. As a result, choosing to outsource your payroll can offer a wide range of benefits for your business.

With the tips in mind, the daunting task of simultaneously moving to a new home after a divorce and launching your own business can be tackled successfully. This groundwork lays the foundation from which your venture will be up and running in no time!

Author of this article is Kristin Lewis  is a former advertising copywriter. She’s a loving mom to two boys: oldest is 10 and youngest is 7. She recently created parentingwithkris.com, where she puts her skills to work writing about the trials and tribulations of parenting.”

 

Celebrating Your Divorce Anniversary

Do you celebrate your divorce anniversary?  Is it a day you mourn or instead viewed as Independence Day? Easy to have mixed emotions.

We do hear about extravagant parties to small gatherings of friends marking the occasion when a divorce is finalized. Some hire limousines to whisk their group away to the pubs. No drunk drivers. There are paper plates, napkins and decorations to spice up the divorce party’s atmosphere. My friends took me out for lattes that first month after the divorce decree was issued.

What about the anniversaries? For the first few years my two sons gave me flowers and chocolate on that date. We went out for lattes or did something else special.

One January a few years post-divorce, my sons and I went to Disneyland. I was not thinking about my divorce. The woman at the check-in desk asked if we were celebrating any occasion. I told her “No.” When we got up to our room, my younger son asked why I had lied. “Lied?”

He explained, “Yes, you told that lady we weren’t celebrating anything. This is the week of your divorce anniversary!”  I said “Well, I’ll go back down and tell her.” My older son jumped up and accompanied me to the lobby.  I felt a bit strange informing that clerk about it. Her face froze. My son quickly intervened.  “We are so happy about this occasion so we are celebrating.” She laughed and was quite relieved. We were handed three large pins saying “I’m celebrating” written across them.

I cannot remember laughing so hard for two days straight. When strangers came up and asked what we were celebrating, we informed them. They laughed at the unexpected answer. The boys were giggly too. This was one of our best holidays.

My sons went to college and moved into their own places.  This past January, my younger son was at home. “Congratulations Mum” he said. It dawned on me it was my divorce anniversary. We collected his brother and went out for lattes.

Your divorce may have been tragic, especially if dumped for someone else. A day you do not want to be reminded of ever again. You have the right to ignore it. Or perhaps use it to reflect where you were and how far you have come. You moved forward.  You got past a traumatic event. Perhaps made some big changes in your life for the better.

You have the option of reframing it from an ending to becoming a new tradition. It can be your meet up with friends day each year. You plan fun activities and enjoy their camaraderie. I think about how less stressful my life is by not being in a toxic marriage.

A consideration is the children. They may feel torn between loyalties or are having a rough time with their parents not being together. A celebration would not be appropriate.  In my case, for years afterwards, the boys periodically asked “What took you so long to divorce?” They were flowers which bloomed post-divorce.

When this date is about to roll around, perhaps get out of town. Avoid old triggers which remind you of your relationship or its end.  Go on holiday abroad or explore new sights closer to home.  Do what feels right to you. Ignore it or celebrate. Your call.

A Woman’s Running Guide

So you want to start running? Congratulations! This can be a great way to improve your health and lose weight. Women can get a lot of health benefits once they make a habit of daily running. We know taking a start isn’t easy, but we’ll help all the women out there start their running routine through this article. But before you take a step, there are some things you need to know.

Get Yourself the Right Running Shoes

It’s important to choose suitable shoes if you’re going to start running. Make sure that you have the right type of shoe for your foot and running style. Here are some tips on how to choose the right running shoes for women:

  • If you’re a beginner, go for a lightweight, low-profile shoe that is flexible and has good shock absorption.
  • If you’re an experienced runner, consider getting a more supportive shoe that will help improve your mileage and speed.
  • Look for shoes with a heel cushion or stability ball at the heel to provide extra cushioning and support.

Decide Why You Want To Start Running

Running is a great way to get your heart rate up and burn calories. It can be a great way to improve your fitness level and feel better overall. However, if you’re not sure why you want to start running, here are some reasons to consider:

  • Running can help prevent or reduce the risk of diseases such as heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and some types of cancer.
  • Running can also improve your mood and mental well-being.
  • It’s a great way to connect with nature and get some exercise while doing so.

Find A Appropriate Time And Place To Start Running

All the women looking to start running should look for the appropriate time to start running. The best time and place to start may vary depending on your current fitness level. Beginners should try starting out by running short distances (around a block or two) outside during daylight hours. As you become more comfortable, you can gradually increase your distance and run in different locations, including at parks or other open spaces.

Make A Plan For Yourself

Its really easy to think about running, but it can be hard to get started. However, with a proper plan, you can get started easily. Make a plan for yourself and follow it as closely as possible to ensure you achieve the best results. Start slowly and gradually increase your distance over time, gradually building up your endurance. Find a running group or join an online community to support and motivate you along the way.

Get Started

Once you make up a plan, start implementing it at your earliest. Don’t wait for tomorrow; start the routine from the current day. There is a philosophical proverb “that it will never be tomorrow because when tomorrow arrives, it becomes today.” If you are new to running, it can be helpful to start with a beginner’s routine. There are many different running routes and distances to choose from, so find one that is challenging but manageable for you. Once you have started running, keep a diary of your progress so that you can track your performance and progress to see how much you have improved.

Benefits of running for women

Running is a great exercise for women of all ages and fitness levels. It has many benefits, including decreasing stress and improving mood, heart health, joint health, and weight management. In addition to these general benefits, running can also help improve your overall fitness level and help you lose weight.

How does running improve mood?

It has been seen that running help improve mood and mental well-being in both men and women. In fact, research suggests that running may be one of the most beneficial exercises for overall mental health. One study found that people who ran had lower levels of stress hormones in their bloodstream than those who did not run. Another study found that people who ran tended to have better mental health than those who did not run at all. This is likely because running releases endorphins, which are chemicals that reduce pain and increase feelings of pleasure.

How does running improve heart rate?

Running has long been known to be a finest way to improve heart rate. In fact, running at a moderate intensity can help increase your heart rate by up to 50%. This is because running increases your metabolic rate, which in turn helps burn more calories.

How does running reduce stress?

Running is a proven way to reduce stress levels. In one study, runners who completed a moderate-intensity run reported feeling less stressed than those who didn’t run at all. Researchers believe that this is because running releases endorphins, which are hormones that can decrease pain and inflammation. Additionally, running has a positive impact on mental health by helping people to de-stress and connect with their surroundings.

How does running help in weight management?

Running can help burn a lot of calories and help in weight management. The average person burns 80-140 calories per mile, depending on your speed and weight, so running can help you lose weight.

Conclusion

Now you must have a clear idea of what to do, so get out there and run!

Running is one of the simplest and most effective exercises you can do for your health. It’s low-impact, calorie-burning, and can be done anywhere. Plus, it’s a great way to connect with nature. Ensure your running shoes are comfortable enough and fit perfectly. Running in uncomfortable shoes can lead to injury.

All the women out there thinking about running should start the routine from today. Start slowly and gradually increase your running time as you become more comfortable and confident in your ability to run long distances. Find a safe place to run that is also convenient for you – whether that’s at a park or other open spaces.