Why Playfulness Is Important
Playfulness is a way to reduce stress and get through the minutia and tasks required during stressful times, such as divorce. There are various studies on the benefits of playfulness in getting through adversity (such as divorce) and contributing to longevity
Tips On How To Set Priorities During Divorce
How to set priorities when too many things are bombarding you at once? Divorce is a time when one can be scattered. Too many decisions requiring immediate attention. You may feel like you are on a roller coaster speeding along over the ups and downs. How to stop this craziness and get back on track? Set priorities. How to get started? Make A Check List What is your most important issue or concern? Or your top fear? For many, it could be housing. “Do I have to vacate the marital home with the children?” When finances are uncertain, the question may be “Will I have to move house in a hurry without Plan B?” Write down whatever it is. Underneath that, list any resources or ways which you can deal with this issue. You might surprise yourself with options which had not occurred to you before. This is an example, with housing. Temporarily move in a relative’s spare room. Or at a nominal cost, take the bedroom of your empty nester friend whose offspring is doing a gap year abroad. Be creative and think outside of the box when coming up with solutions. Do the same with the lesser issues. A check list of what is bothering you and what you can do about it helps you to get organised. You feel more in control of your divorce situation when brain storming and coming up with ideas. What Needs To Be Done First? Determine what are the most important tasks. Rather than attempting to accomplish many things at once, focus on what needs to be done first. Then second, third and so forth. What is urgent (getting financial records together) and what is less so (deciding which pieces of furniture you would like to get). Rather than being like a…
Tips for a Less Stressful Move: Advice for the Whole Family
It’s no secret that moving can be a hassle, especially if you’re divorced, have kids, or both. Did you know that more than 15.9 million Americans moved during the pandemic, according to USPS data? Since moving is one of the most stress-inducing milestones in life, it’s important to know how to make it a more enjoyable process. Maybe you’re leaving a small apartment to finally have more space, or maybe you’re moving across the country to start a new life after divorce. Even if your children are looking forward to the move, they probably also feel unstable as they experience a ton of changes. When you’re divorced, there are even more considerations and logistics to keep in mind. There are plenty of stress-free moving tips you can follow that make life easier, fortunately. Although one of the best solutions is to look into the cost of hiring a moving service, if that’s not possible, at least try to follow some of our hacks that are particularly helpful if you’re a divorcee. Keep a master binder for moving. Organize all documents: contracts, receipts, and other important records in one organized place. Schedule your move to happen mid-month or mid-week. There will be less traffic and the cost to move furniture might be lower during these times. Be careful about how you pack! Take care of wrapping fragile or tedious items first so you’re not rushing and leaving room for error (and damage.) Avoid leaks, lost items, or other mishaps by keeping expensive and valuable personal belongings close and remembering to pack items like cleaning solutions, paints, and sharp tools in clear plastic bins (rather than cardboard boxes.) Be sure to organize your boxes using color-coding. Consider giving every room a different color packing label. You can download our free packing labels…
Co-parenting With a Difficult Ex: 5 Tips to Make It Easier
For a divorced parent, dealing with a difficult ex can be exhausting, emotionally draining, and damaging to the kids. Co-parenting well is difficult enough with two happy parents. When your former partner, however, is non-understanding, the task seems impossible at times. Here are the top 5 tips to be an effective co-parent Set boundaries Make sure you will not engage in negative communication or behavior with your ex. Simply, let your ex know that you will not discuss the matter in front of the children. Instead, ask your ex to send an email, providing it concerns a decision to be made about the children. Although you cannot change the way your ex communicates with you, you can change the way you interact with your ex. Communicating through email dilutes the emotion. When responding to emails, only address the specific issues concerning the children and ignore other irrelevant comments or accusations. Make sure to stick to the point, without judgment or criticism. Do not criticize your ex Keep your personal feelings about your ex aside and refuse to bad mouth your ex to your children. Also, do not engage in negative communication with family or friends, as your children might hear you. Just like you do with your children, you need to resolve your battles with your ex. Find out which parenting issue is vital to you, where you can compromise, and where you are willing to let go. Create a future plan Putting all differences aside, try to sit down with your ex and create a plan that focuses on meeting the requirements of your children. If required, ask a neutral or common party to be present to help you stay focused on the plan and even offer an objective opinion. As part of your future plan, do discuss your…
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