Tips for a Less Stressful Move: Advice for the Whole Family
It’s no secret that moving can be a hassle, especially if you’re divorced, have kids, or both. Did you know that more than 15.9 million Americans moved during the pandemic, according to USPS data? Since moving is one of the most stress-inducing milestones in life, it’s important to know how to make it a more enjoyable process. Maybe you’re leaving a small apartment to finally have more space, or maybe you’re moving across the country to start a new life after divorce. Even if your children are looking forward to the move, they probably also feel unstable as they experience a ton of changes. When you’re divorced, there are even more considerations and logistics to keep in mind. There are plenty of stress-free moving tips you can follow that make life easier, fortunately. Although one of the best solutions is to look into the cost of hiring a moving service, if that’s not possible, at least try to follow some of our hacks that are particularly helpful if you’re a divorcee. Keep a master binder for moving. Organize all documents: contracts, receipts, and other important records in one organized place. Schedule your move to happen mid-month or mid-week. There will be less traffic and the cost to move furniture might be lower during these times. Be careful about how you pack! Take care of wrapping fragile or tedious items first so you’re not rushing and leaving room for error (and damage.) Avoid leaks, lost items, or other mishaps by keeping expensive and valuable personal belongings close and remembering to pack items like cleaning solutions, paints, and sharp tools in clear plastic bins (rather than cardboard boxes.) Be sure to organize your boxes using color-coding. Consider giving every room a different color packing label. You can download our free packing labels…
Co-parenting With a Difficult Ex: 5 Tips to Make It Easier
For a divorced parent, dealing with a difficult ex can be exhausting, emotionally draining, and damaging to the kids. Co-parenting well is difficult enough with two happy parents. When your former partner, however, is non-understanding, the task seems impossible at times. Here are the top 5 tips to be an effective co-parent Set boundaries Make sure you will not engage in negative communication or behavior with your ex. Simply, let your ex know that you will not discuss the matter in front of the children. Instead, ask your ex to send an email, providing it concerns a decision to be made about the children. Although you cannot change the way your ex communicates with you, you can change the way you interact with your ex. Communicating through email dilutes the emotion. When responding to emails, only address the specific issues concerning the children and ignore other irrelevant comments or accusations. Make sure to stick to the point, without judgment or criticism. Do not criticize your ex Keep your personal feelings about your ex aside and refuse to bad mouth your ex to your children. Also, do not engage in negative communication with family or friends, as your children might hear you. Just like you do with your children, you need to resolve your battles with your ex. Find out which parenting issue is vital to you, where you can compromise, and where you are willing to let go. Create a future plan Putting all differences aside, try to sit down with your ex and create a plan that focuses on meeting the requirements of your children. If required, ask a neutral or common party to be present to help you stay focused on the plan and even offer an objective opinion. As part of your future plan, do discuss your…
What are Some Common Financial Mistakes Made During a Divorce?
A divorce is usually a time of great instability. Almost everyone involved in the process is said to go through a tremendous personal change to come out as a different person at the other end. Amid the emotional crisis and the ensuing paperwork, it is customary to forget to take care of some crucial details, especially when it comes to finances. Throughout the marriage, you and your spouse must have made financial investments together. It is not always obvious how to share these assets equitably. Decisions made in the heat of the moment without considering your future income and expenditure can have lasting implications. Here are some of the most common financial mistakes spouses make during a divorce, and how to avoid them. It is best to discuss these with a qualified professional such as a divorce attorney for detailed info. Not Keeping an Eye on Joint & Individual Finances This is not a healthy marital practice. Always calculate how much you and your spouse have invested financially in the marriage by all parameters such as a personal source of income, joint expenditure, investments, and so on. If you let the other person handle this, it will put you at an unfair advantage. In a worst-case scenario, you might miss out on calculating assets that your spouse has kept hidden, which is illegal. You are entitled to your ex’s employer-funded pensions and investments. Work benefits, company shares, and 401(k)s are all subject to division. Remember to include your spouse’s investments when predicting and calculating your earnings from the divorce. Underestimating your Expenditure Post-divorce Since you’ve yet to experience a life without your partner, you might overlook aspects such as a fall in overall income and an increase in personal spending after divorce. Make sure you calculate these factors beforehand, preferably…
Divorce Or Break Up After the Holidays
The holidays can shine a spotlight on problems which are bubbling up just under the surface. Busy day to day activities with a packed schedule can mask issues which are not being addressed. The idea of spending another set of holidays with this person may get one thinking about the relationship.
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