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Your Anger During Divorce May Be A Sign Of Depression

Anger and depression are two of the many complex emotions that may occur within a season of divorce. Everyone experiences depression differently, and anger is one way that it may be expressed. This can be especially true in situations where a person feels helpless, which may be the case for someone going through a divorce. Identifying Anger in Depression In 2017 alone, major depressive disorder affected more than 17 million U.S. adults. Diagnostic criteria for this condition are depressed mood and/or loss of interest or pleasure in life activities for a specified period of time. Additional symptoms may include: Significant unintentional weight loss or gain. Insomnia or sleeping too much. Feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt. Agitation or psychomotor retardation. Fatigue or loss of energy. Diminished ability to think or concentrate, or indecisiveness. Recurrent thoughts of death. For some people, anger is also a sign of depression. One study reported that “anger attacks” were present in approximately 30% to 40% percent of participants who were depressed. In another study of patients who experienced major depressive episodes, researchers found that overt irritability or anger was found in more than half of the participants. Understanding the Link Between Depression and Anger According to Recognizing and Addressing Depression Presenting as Anger, the use of ineffective or inappropriate emotional regulation strategies, as well as an impaired ability to process negative information, may play a role in developing depression. These behaviors can result in: Rumination: repetitive, unwanted, past-oriented negatively inclined thoughts. Individuals who ruminate may mentally rehearse past stressful events and worry about future events. Impaired cognitive reappraisal: inability to reframe one’s thoughts about emotion-eliciting occurrences to change their effects. Increased expressive suppression: attempts to hide, inhibit, or reduce ongoing emotion-expressive behavior. Within these dynamics, researchers have found that people with depression were more likely to experience anger and…

Divorced? Here Is What To Do With Your Diamond Ring

A diamond wedding ring’s value and meaning to you will obviously change after divorce. However, that doesn’t mean its value goes away entirely. Although the marriage may be over, the ring is still worth something to someone.  Selling a diamond is certainly an option; however,  a smart way to take advantage of this is to redesign your post-divorce diamond jewelry. Since you likely won’t want to keep the metal setting, removing the diamond and using it in a new way ensures it isn’t wasted.  Are you interested in redesigning your divorce jewelry? If so, consider the following project ideas.  A Necklace   Setting a diamond into a necklace or making it a pendant is a simple but incredibly effective way to elevate a piece of jewelry.    When planning your design, consider how every detail will impact the look of the necklace. The diamond may be the most noticeable feature, but it is by no means the only feature worth paying attention to.   You also want to look into chain options. You want to decide whether adding pearls to the necklace will complement the diamond’s beauty, or distract from it. If you choose to add them, you want to make sure you pick the ideal size pearls.  Luckily, this can be a fun experience, giving you the opportunity to explore and express your own personal creativity! Earrings   Earrings prove just how gorgeous a diamond can be. Despite being very small, diamond stud earrings can nevertheless transform any look.   Thus, you might want to use the diamond from your old wedding ring to create half of one pair. Work with a jeweler to find a similar diamond for the other half, or if you prefer, simply wear one earring; some people find this unique twist to be very stylish.   A New Ring  …

How To Lower Your Shared Parenting Anxiety After Divorce

Shared parenting is a kind of agreement after divorce, in which both parents continue a positive presence in the lives of children. It provides for the need for the child to stay with each parent more or less equally. The joint custody agreement may vary depending on each specific situation. According to Wikipedia, the time spent by the child with each parent can be divided 50 to 50, or the child can live with one of the parents for four days, and the rest of the week with the second, and so on. That is, the main essence of this concept is to ensure quality rather than quantity.  According to Onlinedivorce, a joint custody order cannot be entered if either spouse is guilty of abusive behaviour, domestic violence, or suffers from chemical or alcohol addiction. In other cases, shared parenting may be requested by the parents, or be awarded by the court as a preferred option due to the presumption (now, more and more US jurisdiction declare that shared parenting is in the best interest of the child.)  Why Co-Parenting Matters So Much Most children also prefer co-parenting to traditional but outdated measures, in which one of the parents loses the opportunity to communicate with the child and becomes only a rare guest (notorious “weekend dad” phenomenon.) With a joint upbringing, the child retains the possibility of a meaningful relationship with each of the parents. Otherwise, relationship problems both with the custodian and non-custodial parent often occur. There are two quite common situations: – Either the child lose the close connection with the non-custodial parent (even if they meet and spend some time on holidays, but the parent is not involved in the child’s daily life, preferring just to compensate for poor parenting with splashy gestures and gifts); – Or…

7 Ways To Express Your Love For Your Partner Without Saying It

Love is that effortless emotion that can transform even the most impassive person. Sometimes we miss out on the signs or moments where we can express our love, without saying a single word. These are simple gestures towards our partner. Understanding the tiniest detail of your loved one shows how much you love him/her. Saying ‘I Love You’ always works and will end your fights magically. Here are a few other creative ways to express your love for your partner without having to say it. Share your deepest fear/secrets   Our deepest and darkest fears or secrets are very personal. Sharing these with your partner will make him/her believe that you trust them entirely. This can make them feel really special and loved. It expresses your faith in your loved one and assures he/she is the most important person in this entire world. Also, it allows your partner to help you get out of it if you wish to. Growing together in love, eliminating flaws or accepting them, finding serenity is all that matters. Attention to Details  When does he/she wake up? What is his/her favorite dish? Or favorite T.V show? Small details can bring immense happiness. If you know your partner’s favorites, what keeps them happy or what puts them off, you will be able to express your compassion towards them. It will show that you care for the minute details only to bring that smile on your partner’s face. For instance, opening the car door for her, placing the food on her plate, keeping the hot water ready for his/her bath. Small acts matter in love. And these are not just a onetime action. Practice it to engrave it in your nature. Be genuine and don’t make it pretentious. Listen   Listening involves paying interest to no matter what your…

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